Thursday, August 24, 2006

Good deeds biting me in the butt..

Recently, I was chatting with a friend who called up to say hello and fill a slow afternoon with aimless chatter. She invited me to her house on a certain day and I apologized since I was busy. She asked, probed, and finally shamelessly interrogated until I told her I was going to a friend’s party. She followed with a preamble of her state of perpetual boredom, her desire to wear a ‘ravishing’ outfit she had recently bought, and finally made it seem like she would absolutely expire of dreariness if I did not let her tag along.

I found myself in an awkward sort of position. The party was my friend’s birthday. I’m not sure I would call him a friend, more like... a strong acquaintance. He was a very good friend of a high school friend of mine (you follow?), he also used to deejay as a hobby and worked most of our school-sponsored events and friends’ parties or random gatherings. Often I’d mill about the deejay stand, complain or complement the music choices, and use it as an excuse to either take a break or escape an awkward moment of some sort. That’s the extent of our acquaintance. But he’s a nice guy and would often tell me how ‘once a friend of [his], always a friend’ and I felt compelled to go; if for no other reason, then for the undoubtedly good music. I knew the place and the crowd and was assured of the security and tastefulness of the whole affair, both very important points to me. At the same time, I could still use a wing-woman [a play on wingman—look it up on urban dictionary I’m too lazy], but wasn’t sure if ‘bamoon’ enough to ask that she be added to the list. Anyhow, I told her that the camp. is gated and I’ll try to get her name on the list.

Throughout the days she hinted and. I called around and had a couple of people promise to add her but not yet confirm. It then occurred to me that her parents weren’t around, and I wasn’t sure how they felt about her going to the party, since it was mixed. I make it a point not to flaunt or push my lifestyle on anyone, some may get offended, many are judgmental, and some suddenly find me interesting in a ‘lets exploit’ sort of way. Anyway, I figure I’m not her mommy. She came over, a bit over-dressed, but I had already predicted that. It’s the ‘out with a girl syndrome’—must outdo one another. I knew the people, and they’re all pretty laid back, so I just donned a nice pair of jeans and a top. Halfway to the place and I was still calling trying to find out if she’s been put on the list, I really didn’t want to embarrass her. Finally, a friend agreed to meet us at the gate because the club house was already at full capacity and they wouldn’t let her add anyone.

We got in without a hitch, and the place was still nice, although emptier than I remember. Inside the club-house (don’t know why they call it that... it was once a gym but the tenants wanted it converted so it was), people milled about and I recognized several faces. I greeted a bunch and made a point of introducing her. Cheap disco lights and a fog machine started up along with the music and the party was on its way. Silly me, I figured she’s having fun. I shackled her to a pleasing Lebanese feller, and she turned to me and waved as he led her to the dance floor. As if it was her conquest (geez I’m mean). I went off to enjoy my night, chatting with a few girls I knew, dancing when asked nicely, and exercising my usual pilgrimage to the deejay stand.

She comes up to me in a huff about an hour later, pulls me from the middle of the dance floor, and declares “Thanks for ditching me! I’m leaving I’ve called my driver!”

I just want to point out, that by no means was she sitting idly at any point in time... and also, I’ve come to the conclusion that all girls are inherently Evil.

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11 Comments:

Your last statement is so true :P

B3dain this friend of yours malha salfa!

By  Anonymous, at 24 August, 2006 20:10  

people are stupid
shit happens
life goes on

By  confused arab chick, at 24 August, 2006 23:24  

That is funny. See, maybe now you have just the slightest understanding of the frustration men have all of the time.

If YOU cannot figure out women, how are we supposed to?

By  أبو سنان, at 25 August, 2006 07:24  

Actually, I have known many many men to behave in the same way (though not, interestingly, with other men. Only women).

It is classic spoiled "Mama's boy/girl" stuff. Who never got any real attention (ie love, both unconditional and tough), except when whining and complaining. Continues well into adulthood. Particularly amongst people who never have to work for a living (getting fired a couple of times for having a lousy attitude can be a great "time to grow up" motivator).

By  Robin, at 25 August, 2006 09:15  

Mocha:
I'm starting to think so myself. I'm sick of giving people the benefit of the doubt!


Perdu:
Oh trust I did. I tried to find out what's going on, she ignored me, I turned right back around and had a grand ol' time for the next few hours. Oh and ate awesome cake.. her loss.


CAC:
Someone has forgotten to take their happy pill..


Abu Sinan:
True. There is not one woman that I understand, including myself. But that does not give man the liberty to be perpetually insensitive, oblivious, and self-serving.

You asked for it ;)


Geshtinanna:
I've always meant to ask you about your name.. it's very interesting.

Around here, the spolied effect has become a serious ailment, a complete personality defect that afflicts all ages. There's no drug to cure it, unless one considers an overdose.

I think it was my mom that said the only way to deal with the type is with 'lu3'at al shibshib' which translates roughly to 'the language of the shoe'... meaning they can certainly use a good whip to set them straight.

By  Trevelyana, at 25 August, 2006 16:31  

Oh and I'm not referring to my friend with the above comment.. I don't think it's that she's spoiled..

By  Trevelyana, at 26 August, 2006 05:50  

" I’ve come to the conclusion that all girls are inherently Evil."


How refreshing that one from their own rank agrees with me! ;)

By  illogicist, at 26 August, 2006 13:07  

hehehe she's freaky..
sorry that was funny, what was she expecting you do, hold her by the hand and lead her around?

don't get me going about friends those days, i'll never stop ;p

but just one thing to conclude this comment ;p stay away from that girl, i sense something bad about her.. its her aura ;p

yeah i'm clairvoyant.. lol sometimes ;p

By  Baroque, at 26 August, 2006 17:45  

Leno-But that does not give man the liberty to be perpetually insensitive, oblivious, and self-serving.

You asked for it ;)"

Haha, and you gave it to me. But, of course, present company excluded right?

I think young guys need time to learn how to be a man, with everything that entails. When grown, adult men still do this type of stuff, it is inexcusable.

I see the funny looks when I talk to my friends, most Arab males, and they are surprised that I feed the babies, Sinan now 14 months, and Sayf 4 months, as well as change diapers, do laundry, cook and do dishes.

Like one Jordanian friend of ours said when she came over and saw me changing a diaper "he changes diapers? Malik......why cant you get Arab guys to change diapers to."

The way I see it, a true Muslim would do all of these things. Isnt that acting like the prophet did?

Even if you are not Muslim, these things are kindness, caring, and not just for your wife, but for the kids.

I thought of you today. I saw a car with the license named "Leno" in Fairfax.

By  أبو سنان, at 26 August, 2006 19:56  

Hey girl.. Sup, long time no.. anything =\ lol
anyhoo, the girl is just being moody and girls in general are evilly weird!!

By  Nouph, at 31 August, 2006 16:57  

heh.
In retrospect, I'd have to agree.

By  Trevelyana, at 03 September, 2006 14:38  

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